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Tuesday, January 4, 2011
Renaming the Twos
Can I tell you a secret? This girl is kicking my trash, emotionally. I don't mean that lightly. Her age, 2, has caught me blindsided, even though I knew what to expect. She is an irascible, spirited toddler--as evidenced by her reaction to the little things: Her defiance of anything involving the words "help mommy clean up the mess, please" ; her stubborn, "No!" when I attempt to take any picture (see photo above); her physical aggression when she doesn't get the candy, cookie, or practically anything else she asks for.
Yet, I refuse to label her stage, "terrible."* I guess it comes down to my refusal to give in. Her two's have brought unforeseen complications--bigger and faster (and more expensive) messes, stubborn refusals to sleep, and constant battles over what activities we should do during the day. In the middle of this, I keep reminding myself that there is so much more to this age than tantrums and obstinacy. After a few weeks, I finally saw the priceless treasures: Spontaneous hugs and kisses, (positive) independence, language, knowledge, intuition, compassion, empathy, and laughter.
Yeah, the twos are rough; however, in my mind, they are like any other stage--with positives and negatives. When I'm looking close enough, I notice the positives significantly outnumber the negatives. Maybe I'll rename this stage the terrific twos, just to throw my pessimistic side off. Then again, maybe not.
*If you or anyone else you know uses this phrase, please know I would never correct you. Heck, I totally understand why the twos are called terrible. For me, I try to avoid using that phrase because it would only remind me of the negatives. Believe me, I need all the optimism I can fabricate; hence my suggestion to rename the label.
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Posted by amber_mtmc at 9:00 PM